Yes, we have adopted! Robbie and I are so passionate about all things adoption. When we started dating we always wanted to adopt so when the day came we chose domestic adoption (for several reasons) and the process has truly changed our lives. Our journey through adoption started when our biological son, Makai was three months old. Assuming that the adoption process would take awhile we went in head first.
Little did we know, God had a different story for our family. After three short months, we were matched with a birth-mother. We got to know her and a month later, Josiah was born. Our younger boys are 6 MONTHS apart. Looking back we felt way over our heads but we wouldn’t have changed a thing. It was a crazy and fun journey.
Fast forward to Fall of 2017 and we felt led to start the adoption process again. We did a lot of research and knew we wanted to adopt where the biggest need was in NC and that was older children in foster care. We learned, “20,000 youth would age out each year in care” and we wanted to to help. Again, we felt way over our heads but we knew God was nudging us to go ALL in. As we began the process, we would hear the names of specific children in care and some details of their stories. I felt it was a privilege to be able to know these children by name and began to pray for them. I would circle their names in my journal. Little did we know that one of those names would later be our son.
Five months later we met a sweet twelve year old boy named, Ahngel on his birthday. It was a day we will never forget. After meeting with him, we felt comfortable about moving forward. Ahngel was ready too. We began a transition period for six months with visits, lots of traveling, and weekend stays. We also became Therapeutic Foster Parents as we waited for him to move in with us.
In June of 2018, Ahngel moved in and transitioned for the next year-and-a-half into our family. We knew going into this that we were jumping six years of parenting. We had NO IDEA how to raise a teen but we felt God equipping us along the way. Evolving into a new family with many changes was especially hard for everyone. It was hard for Ahngel in a way we will never understand. We have grown together with many growing pains. The common ground was continuing to say YES to one another over and over again no matter what. I can finally and happily share that Ahngel’s adoption was complete on October 31st, 2019. He is officially a part of our family and out of foster care forever (insert emoji praise hands)!!
We always tell people that we never share our children’s stories because it’s their story to share, not ours. We do share OUR journey through adoption and foster care. Each adoption has had it’s challenges and hardships. We now know trauma is very real, time helps, and God heals.
We LOVE encouraging and helping others who are on the same journey as us or just starting out. If that is you, please join me as I share Adoption/ Foster Care related posts on this space and if you have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out to me at: Lifeplantedhere@gmail.com
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