For some this word brings peace as you reflect on your relationships. For some, you cringe when the word comes up in conversation. Everyone has had experience with community. Some of us have had a lot of success in this area and some of us have deep wounds because of the past.
Community is not easy to find. It doesn’t happen over night and it takes intentional effort and time to build relationships.
It’s necessary and needed.
We’ve been in Asheville for four years now. Our community has changed so much. Never would I ever imagined the relationships that we have developed here or the journey in our past friendships. It really is crazy to reflect on the past four years but our journey in finding community or building relationships in general hasn’t been easy. It’s looked like taking the initiative to have people over for dinner year after year, grabbing lunch with strangers, dealing with hurt, and risking rejection.
One thing I know for sure because of what scripture says is, God designed humans to be in relationship with one another (Hebrews 10:24-25). We aren’t meant to do this life alone, but for some of you, that’s just it.
You feel alone.
I don’t know what your community currently looks like. I don’t know your wounds or where you are currently headed in your relationships. I can only hope for the best for you. What I do know is I want community for you. I don’t want the tension of relationships changing for you or the risk of hurt but this may happen. This is a reality in friendship. Friendship comes with risks.
Will you still try? Will you still fight for friendships?
I want you to find those people that will show up for you and break bread with you in the form of tacos. I want you to find your “person” and to share your heart with them.
I want you to find that friend you want to have. I want your kids to have heroes that are in your supper club.
I want you to be spontaneous and grab dinner with the girl who makes you laugh and you know you can be yourself around.
If I could encourage you in person, I’d set my hand on your shoulder, look you in your eyes and remind you that you are worth it. Your story is worth it. Dip your toes in the water and go for that jump.
You can be brave and scared at the same time when it comes to finding community.
I know this because I have been there.
Go and find your “home team” as Shauna Niequist describes it. There may be bumps along the way. You may have to stretch yourself but being alone is not the end goal for you.
I just know it. You are not meant to do this life alone, my friend. Robbie and I do better when we have people surrounding us and pushing us on this life and vice versa. We are better people because of “our people.”
I am over here rooting for you. Dare to take the initiative today. Be the first to open up about the hard stuff. Lean in when things get hard.
Fight for “your people.”
You got this.