We live in a day and age where we have oodles and oodles of books, articles, classes, blogs, groups, and material related to parenting and motherhood. This is a huge thing for our generation! Some women back in the day relied on what their parents learned and passed down to them. They didn’t have the same resources we have today.
I recently read an article on this subject. The article discussed how people’s opinions, philosophies, and decisions about parenting have changed greatly even in the last decade. It also mentioned in our society today many people have opinions and they are not afraid to share them.
Many of my friends let their kids cry it out, they breastfeed, use formula, do responsibility charts, use time out, spank, have feeding schedules, use attachment parenting, and the list goes on. I think it’s great. Whatever works for them, right?
The last thing I want to write about is my own parenting philosophy or address how you should parent your kids. One thing I do want to bring to light is something mom’s face daily and what we really want to hear. Believe it or not, we share something in common. Drumroll please….
We all know…..parenting is hard.
Whether you are a stay at home or a working mom you know that motherhood takes effort and hard work.
Well, then what’s all the fuss about?
There are people out there who want to be “right” in how they parent. They will badger, ridicule, and hurt people with their words if other’s disagree with them. This is so sad. It breaks my heart.
Mamas, instead of fighting on social media or in public about what other’s should be doing with their child or how people should parent. What if we started responding with grace and love? What if as a community of women and parents we united together to love our kids and give them our best?
To be honest, what some of us really want to hear is a simple, “me too.”
I wonder how much comfort and unity would take place if we did this instead of laying out our opinions one by one.
A simple “me too” says,
I know you do things differently then I do. I don’t know the right thing to do. I just know what has worked for me and my family. I understand where you are at. I get it. This isn’t easy. You are not crazy. You are not alone. We are in this thing together. You do things your way and I’ll do things mine. You are right, the days are long. I’m there. Me too.
A friend told me recently, “Sometimes I don’t want advice. I just want to know that I’m not fighting this motherhood battle alone and that I have people in my tribe/village who are willing to stand and support me regardless of our differences in opinions on what is right.”
I love this and I couldn’t agree more.
Books, blogs, social media, and opinions are super helpful but sometimes what many of us really need is a “me too” to get through the day.
This simple statement gives us hope. It let’s us know that other people get it. As a tribe/ village of mothers let us be reminded- we are in this thing together. We are all doing our very best to love and raise our kids.